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Mental Health in India

At » 11:34:00 PM // 0 Comments »
I know what you will be thinking by the time you reach mid way of this post - "Why am I reading this? I've got no problems! I am perfectly Normal". Yes even I know that you are 'normal'. But there are others whom you may be directly or indirectly related who are affected with mental illness, for whom you care... so read on...

We live in a country where our fear of mental illness is so deep rooted that we tend to become irrational when we think of those mentally affected. Our society has been stained with so many misconceptions and wrong theories about mental illness. I want to ask all of you who consider yourself to be a part of this 'NEXT" generation, how many time have you giggled at a roadside beggar wearing some filthy clothes, muttering and laughing to himself. I am sure most of you have. Honestly, even I was no exception to this...

But have you ever wondered why did you laugh at that guy? You would say, because he is Mad! So? Would you have reacted similarly at a person with high fever or say having Diabetes or any other damn illness? I am sure you would not!

Today we still hear news that Women are branded as "witches" (chudail) and then burned or stoned to death in many pockets of our country. Elders still see mental illness as some 'Devil's possession'! And what is the solution they teach us? Beat such 'deserving' victims with broomsticks and lathis and 'drive away' the spirit out of their bodies! It was not long ago in our soceity that patients with psychosis were taken to an asylum, usually very far away from the 'normal' civilization and chained so that others could live safely. But in between these hard truths there's also something to smile about. Atleast certain portion of our society has come a long way in giving the mentally ill, a treatment that is far more humane...

I did a short post in Psychiatry few months back in a public hospital. People including even my relatives raised an eyebrow on my decision! They looked suspiciously at me. "Kirti tu bhi paagal ho jaayega kuch dinon me, chod de ye sab!" (Kirti, even you will go crazy in few days, leave this post)

'Paagal'... Now that is something i sure giggle at! I wonder often, who must have 'invented' this word! The nearest english analogue of paagal would be 'Crazy' or 'Mad', right? So aren't you crazy about so many things in your life? So should i call even you as 'paagal'? Baseless theory right? So are many theories about mental illness in our society.

Ask people around and most of them (70%) will say a person becomes mentally ill because 'uska dimaag kamjor hai' (his brain is weak). But the fact is that mental illness cant be "cured" only by 'strengthening' your mind or your will power. What happens next? The ill person becomes more and more aloof. A blanket of guilt and secrecy covers him thereby blocking every possible intervention which could have pulled him/her out of that loneliness till the situation gets out of hand.

But here i want to ask each one of you have you ever ignored that nasty cough or that 100+ fever? So my question remains, 'If your physical body is so special to you, your brain in fact is the most integral part of it! Then why ignore mental illness? Why laugh at some one whose brain has fallen ill.' Everyone who has a heart can get a heart attack, similarly everyone who has a brain can have mental illness! And so if you still think you are immune to mental illness, well... you know what I mean.

Indians always cry over racism they face on the basis of their colour. But aren't we Indians racist when it comes down to stigmatizing people with mental illness and branding them as 'abnormal'?

The need of the hour is to wake up and embrace a new ideology towards mental health. Its time to break away those shackles of old ideas and myths and misconceptions and think responsibly and rationally when it comes to meeting a mentally ill person. Such a person is not 'dangerous' or 'funny'... deep inside he/she expects a small gesture of love and understanding from you...

So tap your brain a bit if you really think you are 'Normal' and think about this... Rather than pointing your finger at them, let your helping hand be a reason for light in that lonely darkness...

Take care

Mis memorias escolares...

At » 9:43:00 PM // 0 Comments »
8.36 a.m. 28th January 2011... the Gmail notifier popped up on my laptop screen... Mail from my school! It was  Mrs. Ranjana Kolwankar Madam... It read, 'You are requested to send an article for 25 years Silver Jubilee Souveneir'... Was just going through my medical books and in a fraction of a second that mail threw me back in the past with all the sweet old memories of writing an essay 'My school' with a fountain pen. Call me weird... but that made me realise, however far you go in your life, nothing beats the smell of a notebook, the euphoria of writing on a fresh page and the apprehension of waiting for the marks that teachers would give for that essay. It was a rush of emotions blended with the same euphoria and also regret that those days would never come back, however hard one wishes it could. Excited as I was, I started writing the article, the only difference, the notebook and the pen was gone, and it was the desktop and the keyboard that replaced it.

Going back into those memories, my entry in the school was a bit dramatic. I wasn't allowed as I was below the required age to get an entry into Kindergarten. Had it not been for my Grandfather and the Late. Tarabai Vartak Madam, I would have been in some other school. I still keep the note safe in my closet where Shri. Nandan Patil Sir had written to Swati Marathe Ma'am to get me admitted in the school immediately after Mai's intervention. I cannot thank them enough for letting me a part of this beautiful institution. And then, the next 12 years were the best part of my life so far... and I mean it. 
Even though for the next half of my life I wasn't attached to the school, it played a significant role in each and every step that I took in building my future. Life wasn't easy while pursuing a medical degree, but the values that my teachers had carved in my personality proved as the most important factor in making me a doctor today. When I was in my tenth grade, I distinctly remember Raut Sir saying, "College life will be far more relaxed but there will be no one to monitor your progress or scold you for your mistakes." Everyone, including me, had not taken that seriously, thinking that finally there will be no 'burden' of homework and compulsory attendance. But how true he was. Of course, college life was fun with no restrictions, but as they say, 'You value something only when you dont have it or you lose it.' 
In my early school days, I hated school, just like any other kindergarten kid. I used to cry every other day. I was so shy that my teachers were in doubt whether I could even talk. But Swati Ma'am was the best teacher around for us little kids then. I remember, we were in the Fifth grade, when we donned the new school uniform, and we were so excited about it. There were new benches and seats in the class room... and the fresh smell of the varnish is still etched in my mind. The excitement of using the pilot pen for the first time in the fourth grade, standing in rows in the shade of the huge tree in the backyard just before the opening school bell, the huge mass drill on mondays, every single memory, whether big or small,  good or bad, always brings a smile on my face. 
Primary school was fun, like reaching school early on the first day of school, just to grab the first bench in the classroom and 'booking' it for the rest of the year. Every teacher right from my Kindergarten Miss to my Principal in the final grade laid a foudation for my future. The basics of science that Kamath teacher, Manisha teacher and Madhuri teacher instilled in my mind bore fruits, the day I took the Hippocratic Oath as a doctor. Sangeeta teacher made Geography interesting and Mary teacher reinvented History with her unique way of teaching. Though later biology became my main forte, Maths was one of my most favourite subjects and no prize for guessing who made that possible. Farid Sir, I believe, was the best teacher around for that job. Though I was fortunate (or should I say 'unfortunate') enough to not experience his famous 'thappi' on my face in the five years that I learned Algebra and Geometry under him. All of us were always keen to listen to his famous 'shayaris' in the class.
A noted philosopher quotes, 'The only weapon that becomes sharper with constant use is the tongue' and no doubt language plays such an important part in one's life. It shapes your personality and Sheetal teacher saw to it that we all were fluent in the first language of our school. I still remember how hard she worked behind every student to get the basics right in this wonderful language. Later we were privileged enough to learn English in the final grade, from the woman herself, my Principal, 'Mrs. Avril Rodrigues' Ma'am. The command that she showed over the language was just too good. Ranjana Teacher and Raut Sir saw to it that we mastered our national language as well and learn the beauty behind each and every word of it. Mangela teacher didn't just teach us Marathi, but she made me and many of us realize how important it is to be emotionally and morally attached to one's mother tongue, despite being a part of such a varied and cosmopolitan way of our lives. Apart from the books, she also focussed on teaching us moral values in each and every lecture of hers. No wonder she unofficially played the role of a mentor for many of us. 
If study was my love, Drawing was my passion. And one person who made me realise about that was Alka Ma'am. Right from Elementary to Camlin to Interschool competitions she stood behind me and gave her invaluable advice which I still remember every time I hold the pencil and the brush in my hand even today. We all know how computers have made ways in our lives today. And while using one right now, I want to thank all my computer teachers like Manisha teacher, Kripa Miss and Krishna Sir for making me love its basics. I want to quote down one incident where Manisha teacher had left the school after teaching us computers for three years. And everyone were so sad till the day she returned back with misty eyes to teach us once again. Such was the bondage between the teachers and the students. 
When it came to sports, the only image that comes in my mind is that of a tall, lanky figure with a whistle around his neck and a commanding voice. Raut Sir brought back the much needed attention towards sports. I just cannot imagine, the school would have scaled heights in sports had it not been for him. He instilled discipline not just in sports but in our personas. He was the teacher that I always looked up to. I remember writing a poem on him.
My school wasnt just about the Teachers. It was a family that even included those like Raju kaka, Ganesh kaka and Mavshi. They were always ready to lend their helping hand whenerver we needed them. Hema Miss and Babu Sir also helped us in many ways. 
I particularly enjoyed the House system in our school. I enjoyed being the vice captain of Red House in the final grade. Red House had consecutively won the Best House award for four years at a trot since the system was established. I loved writing poems, articles even then. It would be fun to watch the flags going up and down on the notice board every single day. Yellow house had given us a tough competition in those days. 
When it comes to memories, they can be sweet, sad and sometimes even naughty... I do recollect certain happenings in my secondary school and I feel I am pretty safe opening up these secrets, expecting the teachers not to punish us now. We had this Scout and Guide routine camp in our eighth grade and we were camped right there in the school campus. That night was fun, we had to prepare our own food and had to present it before the teachers to taste it and grade us likewise. We had made Pizzas, chapatis, curries and I distinctly remember how I had fought with my colleagues to let me fry the omlettes, coz that was the only thing I knew 'perfectly'! Once the dinner, the antakshari and the campfire was done, we were told to go inside the classrooms and sleep. It was obvious that 'to sleep' was the last thing that everyone wanted to do that night. It was almost one in the night. Everyone were gossiping and 'joking' around. Suddenly few of us had some wicked plans. According to them, the night wasnt that 'eventful'. 

We were 15-20 of us in that room. Suddenly two of them got a plastic bag. They had brought crackers along with them. One of  them checked the corridor to see if anyones there in the corridor. He signalled the other two who went outside and lit the long 'lari' and threw it on the playground from the first floor and ran inside the room. And boy! The noise of the crackers had woken up all the teachers and within a minute the door of our room opened, with Raut Sir holding up the strong torch beam over our faces which were trying hard to pretend that we were sleeping. "Sabh log turant ground par honge". That was the only thing he said and he went. We all woke up. Some were giggling, some terrified and no doubt those who know me well, would agree that I belonged to the latter category. We were on the ground in no time. Raut Sir once again asked everyone about who did it? But no one answered. And as luck would have it, he called me in front! Sometimes you really dont want to choose between letting down your favourite teacher and betraying your friends. But that was the day... (or rather night!) He repeatedly kept asking me. No doubt I was sandwiched. But I didnt say a word. Strict as he was, he wasnt going to cave in to our mischief. After a long pause, the punishment was served! We were told to run 25 rounds around the playground at 1.30 am in that chilly night! Okay no one had expected this. We started running... 10 rounds and everyone were gasping for breath. The 'great' unity had started developing cracks. Everytime the flock was away from where the teachers stood, some started blaming the ones who were responsible. Finally guilt overcame the few and they voluntarily confessed to Sir and we were stopped at the 13th round! Everyone collapsed in unison. So much for friendship and unity! But that was something that I cherish even today and yeah I did apologized to Sir on my way back to the classroom. The night had truly turned 'eventful'...

So that is how school life was. Its difficult to sum it up in a single article. It had its ups and downs. Sometimes you are the centre of attraction, sometimes you get bullied. But school life is all about the innocence, the mischief, the love and the bond with your teachers and your friends that you always crave for the moment you step out of the school gate on your farewell day. Each and every teacher in my school is special for me and will always be no matter how far I go... For me its an extended family which is getting bigger and bigger year by year. It feels so nice every time I hear some good news about it. And I am sure under the guidance of Rawat Ma'am there are many more accomplisments that the school is going to scale in the near future. Though its difficult for me, due to time constraints, to be physically there to contribute something back to the school, I promise I will try to do my bit every time I get a chance to do so... 

I would just sum up everything and thank all my teachers, through this thought quoted by Lily Tomlin....
"I like a teacher who gives you something to take home to think about... besides homework."

Sachin and the World Cup hype!

At » 9:28:00 PM // 0 Comments »
I am writing this post when it is just less than ten days left for cricket's biggest carnival to take place on the subcontinent. I was just surfing through the news channels. And was astonished to see how pathetic the 'special' coverage were on each news channel. 

(Courtesy: Internet)
Theres so much hype around the Indian team. I mean just look at the ads! Captains walking on the ropes, and Dhoni falling midway but ultimately reaching the Cup! I have failed to understand the hype around Sachin Tendulkar. I am a die hard fan of that man. And even the fellow cricketers talking about "Sachin ka sapna pura karenge!" The news channels going ga-ga over "Sachin ka world cup!" 

Come on Guys Why are we building up so much pressure around him? Sachin is mentally tough, I am sure about the fact that he is not new to this media frenzy but making a tamasha out of this just for the sake of a few TRPs is really disgusting! Just attributing this world cup win for Sachin might backfire on the Indian Team itself! Why cant we just pray for a good game of Cricket and leave the God alone...?

What to do before Doomsday 2012

At » 11:33:00 PM // 0 Comments »
How many times have u seen a guy getting 175 in 140 balls and still ending up on the losing side! God! Yesterday was an awful day for me! I wanted to bang the T.V., but i didnt! So i switched the channel... just to see a pretty young news anchor wasting her talent in asking stupid questions to a panel of 'experts' called in to 'educate' the masses of the much hyped 'Doomsday' in 2012!!! It was much more disgusting than India's loss to see the Breaking news ticker displaying, "2012 mein dharti ka vinaash atal" (In 2012. the end of the world is imminent!)


I switched off the idiot box and slipped into my bed. But Sachin's failed heroics had snatched off my sleep too! So i kept pondering about the Doomsday! What if it really would happen! We would have only 1141 days left! So i wondered what things should happen or can happen before the earth gets sucked in, or collides with a meteor or whichever way its supposed to end! Let me tell you...


1. Everyone should start booking their tickets to Baker and Howard Islands, these places in the Pacific are going to witness the sunrise of 21st Dec 2012 the last! They are 12 hrs behind the GMT! So you will be the last one to die! Great achievement that will be...


2. Okay did you always wished to swear or kick your Boss's a**? Now dont hesitate, do it! You may get fired from your job, but dont worry, it would be not long before the whole office gets fired from this universe!


3. I ask why save money and pile it up in those bank lockers. Your plans for future have no meaning now, its already 'planned' by Nostradamus! Withdraw every single penny, break the FDs. Take your spouse to the most hi-fi places around the world. Now no worries about your bank balance!


4. Kids wont need to go to school. Why just scrap the 10th Std Board Exams? Mr. Sibbal are you listening? Scrap every Single exam. Let them have fun...


5. Government of India should not waste time and money in building a spacecraft for Mars in 2019!!! That would never come. Instead direct all the funds towards building a huge countdown timer...
Now did someone just asked me 'Where'? Okay, right in the middle of the sea, against the Marine drive backdrop, taller than Mount Everest (forget Statue of Liberty!) No one will protest now!


6. Supreme court should not unnecessarily give out stay orders to the U.P. government for building statues. 'Aakhri Iccha' puri kee jaaye!' And we educated citizens promise, we wont make a fuss about it now! Now who cares!


7. This time we have a stable government at the centre. So i feel sad for them who didnt vote this time. The next elections wont happen ever. You missed that right of yours! Also everyone should ask Manmohan Singh to step down and give us a chance atleast now to see India being led by a young man as in Rahul Baba.


8. One happy news is that the Cricket world Cup is in 2011. So critics leave Sachin alone and let him play till 2012. In fact call everyone Dada, Jumbo, Dravid, Kapil, let us give everyone a final 'chance'.


9. Orkut, you have very less time to prove that you are atleast somewhere in competition to facebook and Twitter! Get your a**es fired and show us some real stuff!


10. Okay so in short, each one of us has very less time in our hands. Since its already the end of 2009... so do whatever you wanted to do or dreamt of doing the whole life but couldnt! Whatever! Wanted to propose someone? Propose! Wanted to Kick someone? Kick! Wanted to kill someone? Go ahead, you will spend only few years in jail. Better so... do it on the last day... no punishment at all!


Ah! But Alas the world is not ending... they said so back in 2000 too... We are not stupid enough to accept that the universe will get screwed just bcoz a calendar has no dates after 21st December 2012! Had it been true, I would have cared sh*t to write a disclaimer. But it isn't, so let me be safe.


Disclaimer: The ideas above are fictional, no intentions to hurt anyone's sentiments, political or unpolitical!


But still do you have some weird ideas about what things to do if the doomsday was for real, let me know in the comments section.


Dont worry... We will be there even post 2012... me writing silly posts like the one above and you stupidly reading it till the end...


adios


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How to get refund from Indigo?

At » 11:41:00 PM // 0 Comments »
Ever fell in a situation where you had booked an air ticket from a low fare carrier, well in advance just to be on the 'safer' side and avail the lowest fare on a journey, but unfortunately just a few days before the departure, all your plans go for a toss and when most of the Indian low budget carrier like Indigo charge non-refundable air tickets, you are left with the big question, 'How do I go about booking another ticket without losing the money on the previous one?'

I recently went through this situation and tried to google a solution for it, but I failed to find any. So I am writing this post especially for the Indigo travellers where the tickets are mostly non-refundable. But before that let me tell you that this is not a full-proof solution from a travel agent or Indigo professionals. I am just another traveller like you trying to help you out if you ever fall in such situation. Most of the reviews that I read on the net about Indigo customer care were negative. But luckily I didn't face a single problem from their side and they were quite helpful and hospitable.

So here are the steps. I will describe the way I went about it.

1. I had booked a flight from Kolkata to Bangalore 6E 275, well in advance (about 2 months). The cost of the fare was INR 3,492/- I had made the booking from Indigo's official site www.goindigo.in and it was clearly mentioned that the fare is non-refundable.

2. Just a week before the departure day, due to some personal reasons I had to change my source from Kolkata to Mumbai. But I was in a soup as I had no clue about what to do regarding the already booked ticket. So I logged in and was somewhat relieved to see the 'Modify this booking' box in the upper right corner of the itinerary. Just when I was about to press the 'change flight' button, something held me back. I googled once again the problem and noticed that most of the people who had problems in getting the money back had tried to do this on their own. So I refrained from doing it all by myself and called up the toll free number 1800 180 38 38.

3. Mr. Ali answered my call. He was quite polite and helpful and understood my problem and guided me the procedure. He took all the details about my previous booking. He then asked for my new booking details. He cancelled the previous PNR data with my consent and deducted INR 750/- as the cancellation charges. The remainder that is INR 2732/-, he said will not be refunded in cash but will be kept with Indigo for a period of 12 months within which it can be reused for any other travel made within that specified period.

4. As I had to book a new ticket on the same date with a different origin, I asked him whether I can go back online and book a new one with the credit amount. But he refrained me from doing so as he said that to use the credit amount left either you have to call up the customer care and book it with a credit card (not debit card) or you have to visit the airport outlet of Indigo for doing so. As I didn't have credit card then I agreed on the second option.

5. So Mr. Ali helped me with making a provisional ('on hold') reservation of my flight from Mumbai to Bangalore with the new fare rates i.e INR 4132/- and gave me a NEW PNR number.

6. Then he told me to go to the nearest Airport and show both the PNR, the old and the new one and pay the additional amount, i.e. INR 4132 minus the credit amount INR 2732 = INR 1400 via Cash or Debit card but WITHIN 24 HRS!

7. So I reached airport and headed for the Indigo outlet. The whole procedure went smoothly and didn't took more than 5 minutes. And there I was with a new ticket without loosing any money except the cancellation charges,

8. Within half an hour I received a confirmation call from Indigo whether the debit card that I used belonged to me or not, may be for security reasons.

Have a safe journey...

Disclaimer: My sole intention here is to provide a flowchart to those poor souls who become panicky (just like I did) when they have to cancel a non-refundable ticket and don't know what to do next. These steps didn't bothered me in my travel. So hopefully they wont in yours too. But I insist you read the terms and conditions of any airlines before booking the tickets. And I am no agent or professional to give a full proof remedy for such a problem.

Indigo customer care: 1800 180 38 38, (+91) 9910383838

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